A common theme through romantic movies is miscommunication. This often happens near the end of the movie, after the lovers have declared their feelings, or are just about to declare them, there will be a miscommunication of some sort.
It may be the male lead sees the female lead with her ex, he is down on one knee proposing to her. The male lead assumes she is now engaged and distances himself without talking to her.
An email or conversation will be viewed or overheard out of context and the lead who gets that glimpse makes assumptions and distances themself without speaking to the other lead about the full story.
The leads are from two different backgrounds, usually one country and one city, and they make assumptions about what the other one wants.
Not even starting on the characters who are secretly royalty!
Anyway, you get the idea.
So many of these movies show misunderstandings that could be avoided if they only talk to each other.
Life Lesson:
Communication is the key in any relationship, and it can be hard, especially in the heat of the moment. Taking some time to talk to someone about any concerns takes an element of bravery and honesty, along with a whole lot of humility and vulnerability.
In the cases where a male lead sees a proposal, I get frustrated that they don’t stick around to see the answer, or even mention they saw the proposal and ask to see the ring to confirm if she says yes. Especially as they spent part of the movie talking about how she is over her ex.
In the case where a conversation is overheard or an email seen, asking for the full story or some clarification would prevent a whole lot of issues.
From an AuDHD, it can be really hard to bring up conversations about difficult topics, especially when it means being vulnerable. We often spend time thinking about things and our minds will have whole conversations with itself.
We also fear rejection, and RSD can make these assumptions for us!
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