Back when I ran my last business, we were encouraged to set a BHAG – a Big Hairy Audacious Goal.

A goal that was huge and seemed crazy.

Even then, my brain struggled to compute this.

I wanted to empower mums to have businesses, and the more the better.

I did not want the big house or the fancy car.

I was told my goals weren’t big enough.

I was told this on multiple occasions. I was told that the goals ‘had’ to be fame and fortune, essentially, even if it wasn’t quite in those words.

Dreams for a small, neat house, in an area I want to live, and a quiet life wasn’t good enough. We had to want a mansion…

Now that I’m learning more about my brain, and looking at what I actually want, I still struggle with the feeling that I have to have a BHAG, that I must want to be rich and famous, and balance that with what I actually want to do.

Honestly, I want a quiet life. I want to write my stories and run my workshops and just do my thing.

The idea of a mansion freaks me out. How would I keep it clean??? Not to mention I’m only one person, I need space, but not quite that much.

I need a car that gets me from one place to another, I don’t need a fancy car.

Having a BHAG doesn’t motivate me to move on, it doesn’t make me want to strive for more, it completely freaks me out and lands me in freeze mode.

I am working hard to adjust the way I see life, and one of those is to forget those BHAGs and leave them to the people who find them motivating.

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