Today is my mum’s 70th birthday. She’s having a dinner to celebrate and I’m not there.
I will see her tomorrow, but for today, I’m not going to see her.
Why? She lives a 2-hour drive away from me. It’s also a workday, so trying to juggle everything was simply not possible.
In the past, I would try to do everything, no matter how it impacted me.
I would move things around so that I could attend the dinner.
I have got much better at saying no, at making other plans.
Being there for dinner tonight was just too hard, however I have no plans this weekend, so I’ll go down for brunch tomorrow and see her then.
I phoned her this morning to wish her Happy Birthday, and there have been messages flying in the family WhatsApp group.
She said she didn’t want any gifts, just wanted to see us, so I’m extending her birthday for a day to see her for brunch.
I’m really looking forward to it too, and I’ll be much more rested than if I had stressed out about seeing her tonight.
Sometimes, it’s OK to say no and to make alternative arrangements. This is something I need to keep reminding myself of…
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